Saturday, June 25, 2011

How Simple Thinking Leads to a Brilliant Mind

How Simple Thinking Leads to a Brilliant Mind: "

By Barrie Davenport

“All the things that truly matter, beauty, love, creativity, joy and inner peace arise from beyond the mind.” ~Eckhart Tolle

Your beautiful mind can be your worst enemy.

I know someone who suffers from schizophrenia. He constantly hears voices, like a radio in his head. It’s a constant distraction, making it nearly impossible to hold a job or do anything that requires concentration. The worst part is that the voices say negative, demeaning things to him. He’s trapped by his mind and his illness.

In truth, we all suffer from voices in our head. They may not be audible, and they may not always be negative or demeaning, but there’s a constant babble of information, worries, instant replays of interactions, thinking ahead, or ruminating...

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Friday, June 24, 2011

10 Way to Increase Productivity

10 Way to Increase Productivity: "For freelancers and for everyone who are working, we would always want to be productive in everything we do. We do not want to waste every second of the day for"

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Essential Tools for Studying Productively (Part 2)

Essential Tools for Studying Productively (Part 2): "

Essential Tools for Studying ProductivelyWe began this series on the essentials for studying productively (part 1), and now that you’ve discovered your motive for studying – here are some rules to abide by:


During classes:


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Do not skip classes:


There is a reason why we have teachers. Their explanations and interactions make it easier for us to understand, and often those suffice for passing with a good grade. Moreover, class assignments help to put our knowledge into implementation. Class attendance may also carry bonus marks.


Follow the class instructions strictly:


The rules are there to ensure a smooth conduct of classes therefore it doesn’t help if you spend half the year not knowing what the rules and regulations are!


Do not be a back-bencher:


Back seats are usually occupied by those who have absolutely no interest in the class. They sit there so that they can avoid interactions with the teacher or avoid being caught doing something which is not allowed in class, such as sleeping, studying for another course, playing games on their phone, talking, etc. Therefore, try to sit somewhere in the first two rows. This is also good for hearing the teachers loud and clear, it might even keep you from being distracted.



Pay attention to the teacher:


Seems like a simple lesson, yet many find it hard to learn. It is ill-mannered and even regarded as disrespectful to either interrupt the teacher or to talk to others while he/she is teaching. Therefore, maintain silence and order in class.


Take down notes properly:


Jot down the important points and do not worry about punctuation, grammar, etc. You can even write in symbols or abbreviations which you understand (there are many students who later forget what those symbols or shortened forms mean!). Never write down complete sentences, because then, you will be missing other points. Therefore, keep up with the pace of the lecture.


Participate: asking and answering questions:


I was always taught that the best students are those who enquire with their minds, and this is evident through questions you ask. Wait your turn for asking questions and make a real attempt to engage. Also, be precise with your questions – it’s difficult to get a response if the question is vague. Answering questions ensures that you have understood the lessons and sometimes class participation carries bonus marks.


Maintain good relations with teachers:


Often we are taught strict boundaries between teacher and student relations, however interaction is encouraged to ensure students gain the utmost from learning. I often made a effort at school to talk to teachers beyond classroom hours, you can talk to them after class or visit them at their offices. When the teachers see your determination in getting a good grade, they often give you valuable feedback to pull up your grades. Moreover, if you have any problems related to the lessons and want the teachers to give you focused attention, it is best to consult them at their offices or after the class. Many teachers are able to explain in a better manner when there are fewer students.


Make new friends/peers:


You may already have your crew and group of friends to hand out with, but this is not only good for your education, but also for accumulating good deeds in terms of behaving well with others, representing Islam positively, and calling others to Islam. Furthermore, it will ensure a healthy study environment for exam times, exchange of ideas, and co-operation during group assignments and presentations as well as develop interpersonal skills.


Notify absentees about what they missed:


It is also good practice to show your concern for others by asking the reason behind their absence. If you are absent, do not wait for others to notify you of the missed lessons (because everyone may not have noticed your absence). Contact others and gather what you have missed. It is wise to contact two or three people, because one person may have missed out certain class announcements and if you’re lucky they’ll share the notes from the class with you!


So those are the rules to stick by to ensure productive study, in the meantime consider how you’ll implement the above.


To be continued insha’Allah..


About the Author:


Khadeejah Islam, writer at http://www.habibihalaqas.org




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The Keys to Earning Respect

The Keys to Earning Respect: "I am sure that you all have heard the old adage that if you want respect you have to earn it. That saying is so true but I want to add onto it from the things that I have learned during my life experiences. You have to earn it, give it, and demand it all at the same time. If you do these things ...

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Feng Shui: A Tool to Increase Your Prosperity

Feng Shui: A Tool to Increase Your Prosperity: "

By Robert Schnippering for Powered by Intuition.

Can Feng Shui tips increase your wealth and prosperity?

Feng Shui, while relatively new to western society, has been a staple of Eastern tradition for thousands of years. It’s a tool for managing the energies that surround us every minute of every day and that can affect nearly every aspect of our lives. Feng Shui can be used for overall health and well-being and it can also be used to promote certain desirable aspects, such as increasing your prosperity.

A New Definition of Prosperity

First, it’s important to understand that Feng Shui – even when it is used directly – is not a magic formula for bringing you wealth without having to do anything yourself.  Instead,...

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Wednesday, June 8, 2011

5 Ways To Survive Your Inbox

5 Ways To Survive Your Inbox: "

I love email. I hate email.



Most people probably have a similar love/hate relationship with email as they grapple daily with their inbox. In fact, I hate email... I just hate not getting email more. And, that's the dilemma that most professionals face when it comes to their inbox. It's gotten worse over time. Now, it's not just emails. We get messages from Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter and beyond. Most of us are managing multiple inboxes across multiple platforms and it doesn't seem to be getting any better or easier to manage. My inbox has become a never-ending game of Tetris, where emails continue to flow in and stack up to the breaking point. Many professionals have declared email bankruptcy (where they simply delete every single email from their inbox with the hopes that if the contents were truly critical, the sender will reach out them or call as a follow-up).



Most of us rely on email for critical business communications and email bankruptcy is not a legitimate option, so let's look at five ways to master the inbox.




  1. Create folders. Some of the newer Web-based email clients do not have folders (like Gmail), but they do have 'tags' (words you can use to associate multiple messages to), either way creating tags or folders are critical to getting organized. My general strategy is to create a folder for every client or project. On top of that, I create folders for each member of our team at Twist Image (in case it's a conversation related to an individual instead of a specific project). I also have folders for HR, business development, interesting news items that may wind up becoming content fodder for my newspaper columns, Blog post, or an idea for a book. I also track trends using my inbox. If something interesting happens with Facebook, I email the link to myself and file it under Facebook in my trends folder. Using sub-folders is another way to keep your emails organized.


  2. Create rules. I set-up a lot of email alerts from places like Google Alerts or when somebody new is following me on Twitter or requesting to connect on Facebook or LinkedIn. With a couple of simple clicks on the 'rules' button, you can have emails sent from a specific email address or emails that have a similar piece of content in the body of the message to redirect automatically to a pre-defined folder. This avoids inbox clutter and clog-ups. This tactic works great if you subscribe to a lot of e-newsletters as well.


  3. Get it done. In 2001, David Allen wrote the groundbreaking business book, Getting Things Done - The Art of Stress-Free Productivity. While I'm not a sworn devotee of Allen and his techniques (I've managed to develop my own coping mechanisms over time), one gem of productivity insight is culled from this masterful tome: if you can get it done in 60 seconds or less, do it right away. Emails that don't require more than a few sentences to respond to get done as soon as possible and then get filed in their specific folders (or deleted). The longer emails are attended to in-between meetings, but I will set aside one hour - every day - to deal with the emails that require more writing/thinking. Lastly, I don't beat myself up if every email doesn't get responded to on the same day that it was received. The non-critical messages get dealt with in due process, but I do respond to every email that requires a response.


  4. Create a hierarchy of response. During the day, clients or potential new business get responded to first, then staff, then requests for media or writing, and then family and friends (unless it's an obvious emergency). It doesn't matter if that rule gets broken from time to time, but it's the spirit of: clients first, team second and everything else after that, which allows me to look at my inbox with a different perspective. Create a hierarchy of who gets responded to and in what order.


  5. Tell people - in your emails - how to work better with you. Most people have no idea how to use email. They respond to everyone on an email with a bunch of people who were only cc'd and they'll do things like send back an email that says, 'ok,' as if that adds any value to the chain of communication. You can set the ground rules by putting some insights into your signature file. I've seen people with signature files that not only have their contact information, but say things like, 'please only respond back to me, the other people who are listed on this email are just there to be kept in the loop,' or, 'there's no need to respond to back me, I just wanted you to see this so that you are kept in the loop.' A little clarity on how you like to interact via email will help keep your inbox clutter down to a dull roar and it will also teach other people new ways that they can use their email with more efficacy.



Most people are in email hell.



It's on their smartphones and it's on their screens for most of their waking moments. Many people look at their email before going to the bathroom as their first act of the day and many people look at their email right before they close their eyes for the night. Some may see this as an indictment on our society's inability to find a peaceful balance in our work-centric lives. Ultimately, the only way to really survive your inbox is to make a personal promise that you are going to better manage your technology, instead of letting your technology manage you. 



What are your best strategies for overcoming your inbox?



The above posting is my twice-monthly column for the Montreal Gazette and Vancouver Sun newspapers called, New Business - Six Pixels of Separation. I cross-post it here with all the links and tags for your reading pleasure, but you can check out the original versions online here:







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Monday, June 6, 2011

8 Traits of a Successful Work-at-Home Muslimah

8 Traits of a Successful Work-at-Home Muslimah: "


I’ve met so many women running home-based businesses: Muslim and non-Muslim, single, married, divorced, widows, grandmothers. These amazing women are operating businesses from home all over the word – some live in large, bustling metropolitan cities, and some live in isolated rural areas.


Even though there is so much diversity among the women successfully operating home-based businesses, they share similar personality and character traits which may contribute to their success. Running a business and working from home is not for everyone. I’ve compiled a list of traits I associate with the typical work-at-home Muslimah:


A strong entrepreneurial spirit


Are you always coming up with ideas to make money on your own? Do you feel excited and energized at the idea of starting a business from scratch and building it into something? Muslimahs with an entrepreneurial spirit thrive on the excitement of starting a new business venture.


Dedication


Work-at-home Muslimahs are dedicated to their business and what it takes to make it successful. They are willing to invest hard work into making their business stand out from the rest. Sometimes that means working later in the evening or getting started earlier in the morning, taking courses online, etc. She is willing to keep working toward reaching her goals.


A real desire to work from home


A work-at-home Muslimah has a real desire to be at home caring for her family and home while also earning a living. Even if she doesn’t have children in the home, she recognizes that working from the comfort of her home not only provides the freedom to start and stop your workday when you like; it’s also a path toward self-sufficiency and financial security.


A realistic attitude


Even with her big goals and dreams, a successful work-at-home Muslimah remains realistic about what she can actually accomplish as a home business owner. She takes time to create a business and marketing plan, and then implements a strategy for putting her plans and ideas into action.


Creativity


Creativity is a necessity for home business owners. A successful work-at-home Muslimah is capable of quickly recognizing a business opportunity.


Resilience


There will be ups and downs in any business. A successful work-at-home Muslimah always keeps this in mind and doesn’t allow challenges to keep her down. If a business idea isn’t working, she cuts her losses, but doesn’t allow a set back to keep her from pursuing a successful home business. She never gives up – she learns from her failures and applies that knowledge to future ventures.


Independence


The typical work-at-home Muslimah is self-motivated, disciplined and capable of working productively without someone standing over her shoulder supervising her every move. She prefers earning a living on her own terms.


Do any of these traits sound like you? If you’re determined to start your own home-based business, there’s no time like the present. If you’re nervous about staking the first step, start slowly. If you’re employed, start your business as a part-time venture while you continue to work your full-time job and gradually make the transition. What’s important is taking the necessary steps to start making your dreams into reality.


Muslimahs Working at Home was created to provide women with a financial alternative to earning an income outside of the home. Our objective is to share resources and tools necessary to operate a successful, home-based business.



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Sunday, June 5, 2011

10 Essential and Inexpensive Organizing Tools

10 Essential and Inexpensive Organizing Tools: "


It’s no secret that I love organizing.  I love the high I get from turning a chaotic cluttered mess into a space that is calm and functional.  The best part of the whole process for me is that it doesn’t have to cost a lot of money to make that lovely organized transition.


It’s all about not only simplifying the spaces we live in but simplifying the steps and tools we use to get us there.  Let’s take it back to the basics with 10 essential organizing tools that won’t break the bank.


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10 Essential and Inexpensive Organizing Tools is a post from: I'm an Organizing Junkie

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Some Characteristics of Low Self Esteem

Some Characteristics of Low Self Esteem: "

By SelfEsteemAwareness

Some characteristics of  low self esteem are the tendency to have thoughts and feelings that are negative. To be afraid to make mistakes. Constant dissatisfaction and frustration.


Other characteristics of low self esteem are the tendency to be suspicious and defensive. Lack of boundaries and assertiveness, because of fear of abandonment.


Fear of abandonment and fear of being hurt are also important characteristics as well as avoiding being alone. Fear of change, evasive and lack of communication.


I found a complete description of some characteristics of low self esteem at The Family Center of Northern Alberta (Assoc.). I would like to share them with you:


1) Feel and act like a victim. Expecting the worst in life and becoming powerless. The victim mentality causes you to think that you cannot make the changes in your life.


2) Self-pity. Afraid of abandonment. We cannot cope with life if we are feeling sorry for ourselves and not taking responsibility. If we learn to feel our pain, understand it and learn from it. We will be in a better position to cope with life event.


3) Judgmental. To use judgment to feel better about themselves and put other people down.


4) Break agreements, violate own standards. They don’t believe in themselves.


5) Cover, phony , because they can’t be natural.


6) Exaggerate, pretend, and lie because of their insecurity. When you experience insecurity your tendency is to believe that you are never good enough. Insecurity leads you to believe that you are incompetent and helpless to face problems in life.


7) Self-deprecating, shameful, blaming, critical.


8 ) Nice person, constant approval-seeking, people pleaser because their fear of rejection. Fear of rejection is an irrational fear of not being accepted for who you are. It is cause by lacking confidence and esteem. Would you rather keep this fear of rejection or take risks and live the life you deserve with happiness and joy?


9) Tendency toward negative attitude and pessimism. When you immerse yourself in pessimism you become a victim. You become powerless.


10) Rationalize to  fear of change. Even if you doubt you can change to improve your esteem there is always the option to see it as a possibility. Once you realize that it is possible, then you will not be so hard on yourself and with perseverance you will start taking small steps and notice small changes.


11) Jealousy /envy , they feel unlovable and unworthy. You don’t have to do anything to earn your worthiness. The belief that your worth depends on external factors keep you trap in low self esteem. If you can get in touch with yourself and allow yourself to accept the fact that you are worthy, you are going to be able to overcome this trap.


12) Perfectionist , fear of failure and afraid to make mistakes.


13) Dependencies - Codependency. Codependents have destructive relationships that are one-sided pleasing and therefore abusive. Addictions, compulsive, stagnant. Eating disorders and other disorders.


14) Not liking the work one does.


15) Leave tasks and relationships unfinished , lack of intimacy in relationships.


16) Judge worth by comparing, feel inferior.


17) Doesn’t accept or give compliments.


18) Excessive worry and anxiety. Those who suffer from low self esteem experience fear and anxiety. They are extremely anxious and lack confidence. The difference between fear and anxiety is that with fear, you can identify the source of your emotion whereas with anxiety the source is unidentifiable.


19) Fearful of exploring real self.


20) Shun new endeavors, fearing mistake or failure.


21) Irrational responses, ruled by emotions . If you deny feelings and emotions it will be hard to take care of yourself. You cannot either deny nor avoid them. But you can always find a way to understand and transform or release them.


22) Lack of purpose in life , no direction, confusion.


23) Feeing inadequate to handle new situations because of insecurity and perfectionism.


24) Feel resentful and One down when I lose.


25) Vulnerable to others’ opinion, comment and attitudes. People pleasing and looking for constant approval.


Want to know more about your self esteem level : Take Our Self Esteem Test

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Leadership : Effective Leadership principles of Prophet Muhammad (S)

Leadership : Effective Leadership principles of Prophet Muhammad (S): "

Author: Muhammad W. Khan

It is a well-known fact that the Prophet of Islam (saw) was the supremely successful man in the entire human history. But he was not just a hero, as Thomas Carlyle has called him. According to the Qur’an, he was the best example for all mankind. He has shown us the way of achieving supreme success in this world.


By studying the life of the Prophet (saw), we can derive those important principles which were followed by the Prophet (saw). Indeed, the Prophet of Islam (saw) was a positive thinker in the full sense of the word. All his activities were result-oriented. He completely refrained from all such steps as may prove counter-productive.


First Principle: To begin from the possible


This principle is well explained in a saying of Aishah. She said: “Whenever the Prophet had to choose between two options, he always opted for the easier choice.” (Al-Bukhari) To choose the easiest option means to begin from the possible, and one who begins from the possible will surely reach his goal.


Second Principle: To see advantage in disadvantage


In the early days of Mecca, there were many problems and difficulties. At that time, a guiding verse in the Qur’an was revealed. It said: “With every hardship there is ease, with every hardship there is ease.” (94:5-6).


This means that if there are some problems, there are also opportunities at the same time. And the way to success is to ignore the problems and avail the opportunities.


Third Principle: To change the place of action


This principle is derived from the Hijrah. Hijrah was not just a migration from Mecca to Medina. It was to find a more suitable place for Islamic work, as history proved later on.


Fourth Principle: To make a friend out of an enemy


The Prophet (saw) of Islam was repeatedly subjected to practices of antagonism by the unbelievers. At that time the Qur’an enjoined upon him the return of good for evil. And then, as the Qur’an added, “You will see your direst enemy has become your closest friend” (41:34). It means that a good deed in return of a bad deed has a conquering effect over your enemies. And the life of the Prophet(saw) is a historical proof of this principle.


Fifth Principle: To turn minus into plus


After the Battle of Badr, about 70 of the unbelievers were taken as the prisoners of war. They were educated people. The Prophet(saw) announced that if any one of them would teach ten Muslim children how to read and write he would be freed. This was the first school in the history of Islam in which all of the students were Muslims, and all of the teachers were from the enemy rank. Here I shall quote a British orientalist who remarked about the Prophet of Islam (saw): He faced adversity with the determination to writing success out of failure.


Sixth Principle: The power of peace is stronger than the power of violence


When Mecca was conquered, all of the Prophet’s (saw) direst opponents were brought before him. They were war criminals, in every sense of the word. But the Prophet (saw) did not order to kill them. He simply said: “Go, you are free.” The result of this kind behavior was miraculous. They immediately accepted Islam.


Seventh Principle: Not to be a dichotomous thinker


In the famous Ghazwa of Muta, Khalid bin Walid decided to withdraw Muslim forces from the battlefield because he discovered that the enemy was unproportionately outnumbered. When they reached Medina, some of the Muslims received them by the word “O Furrar (O deserters!)”


The Prophet (saw) said “No. They are Kurrar (men of advancement).” Those Medinan people were thinking dichotomously, either fighting or retreating. The Prophet (saw) said no. There is also a third option, and that is to avoid war and find a time to strengthen yourself. Now history tells us that the Muslims, after three years of preparation, advanced again towards the Roman border and this time they won a resounding victory.


Eighth Principle: To bring the battle in one’s own favorable field


This principle is derived from the Ghazwa of Hudaibiyya. At that time, the unbelievers were determined to engage Muslims in fighting, because obviously they were in an advantageous position. But the Prophet (saw), by accepting their conditions unilaterally, entered into a pact. It was a ten-year peace treaty. Until then, the meeting ground between Muslims and non- Muslims had been on the battlefield. Now the area of conflict became that of ideological debate. Within two years, Islam emerged as victorious because of the simple reason of its ideological superiority.


Ninth Principle: Gradualism instead of radicalism


This principle is well-established by a hadith of Al-Bukhari. Aishah says that the first verses of the Qur’an were related mostly to heaven and hell. And then after a long time when the people’s hearts had softened, the specific commands to desist from adultery and drinking were revealed in the Qur’an. This is a clear proof that for social changes, Islam advocates the evolutionary method, rather than the revolutionary method.


Tenth Principle: To be pragmatic in controversial matters


During the writing of Hudaibiyyah treaty, the Prophet (saw) dictated these words: “This is from Muhammad, the Messenger of God.” The Qurayshi delegate raised objections over these words. The Prophet (saw) promptly changed the word and ordered to write simply Muhammad, son of Abdullah.


These were the principles through which the Prophet of Islam (saw) gained that success which has been recognized by historians as the true success.


Source: Khan, Muhammad W. [1998] “Prophetic Principles of Success.” Minaret, September issue, pp. 8–9.

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Success Engineering

Success Engineering: "The Incredible Real-Life Science
Behind The Science of Success
And How To Make It Work For You
The 100,000 Selling Internet Best Seller
Can You Engineer Your Future ?
Can You Draw Success And Achievement Towards You With Scientific Certainty ?
Or Is Good Fortune An Equation.
In this ...

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Friday, June 3, 2011

7 Excellent Windows-Based Tools To Help You Manage Your Routine Activities

7 Excellent Windows-Based Tools To Help You Manage Your Routine Activities: "

There are many Windows-based tools out there for us, but getting by good ones and free is not that easy. That is why I am sharing Seven Excellent Windows-Based Tools To Help You Manage Your Routine Activities. Read each entry in the list and see which one suits your needs best.


You are welcome if you want to share more Windows-based tools that our readers/viewers may like. Do you want to be the first one to know the latest happenings at SmashingApps.com, just subscribe to our rss feed and you can follow us on twitter and follow us on Digg as well to get updated.


Kestrel GX



Kestrel GX is a free photo organizer and photo editor that makes it a breeze to manage and edit digital photos! The software supports more than 20 different photo formats including several digital cameras RAW. Kestrel GX is a complete workflow tool packed with lots of useful tools for both amateur and professional photographers.


JPEG to PDF



This is a program for converting image files into PDF files. The program supports converting multiple image files to single or multiple PDFs files. The program also supports image scaling and positioning.


SyncBreeze



SyncBreeze provides multiple one-way and two-way file synchronization modes, periodic file synchronization, compressed file synchronization, background file synchronization, real-time file synchronization, an option to synchronize specific types of files, user-selectable GUI layouts and allows one to define multiple customizable file synchronization commands making it very simple to synchronize numerous directories, disks or NAS storage devices.


Duplicate Photo Finder



Awesome Duplicate Photo Finder is a free powerful tool, that helps you to find and remove duplicate photos on your PC. With this program you can easily clean

up your photo collection from duplicates or even similar images.


VirtuaWin



VirtuaWin is a virtual desktop manager for the Windows operating system (Win9x/ME/NT/Win2K/XP/Win2003/Vista/Win7). A virtual desktop manager lets you organize applications over several virtual desktops (also called ‘workspaces’). Virtual desktops are very common in Unix/Linux, and once you get accustomed to using them, they become an essential part of a productive workflow.


Spesoft Image Converter



Spesoft image converter is a free, easy to use, yet substantial utility for batch image, PDF, text and OCR conversion. You can convert between over 75 different

image formats. Including vector formats such as EPS and PDF.


DuckCapture



DuckCapture allows you to capture a window or region on your screen, or the contents of a tall web page that scrolls. You can change your captured area

or add more areas to one image, add annotations. When finished, you can save to file, copy to clipboard or print out directly.

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Wednesday, June 1, 2011

60 Small Ways to Improve Your Life in the Next 100 Days

60 Small Ways to Improve Your Life in the Next 100 Days: "

Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to make drastic changes in order to notice an improvement in the quality of your life. At the same time, you don’t need to wait a long time in order to see the measurable results that come from taking positive action. All you have to do is take small steps, and take them consistently, for a period of 100 days.


Below you’ll find 60 small ways to improve all areas of your life in the next 100 days.


Home


1.  Create a “100 Days to Conquer Clutter Calendar” by penciling in one group of items you plan to declutter every day, for the next 100 days.  Here’s an example:



  • Day 1: Declutter Magazines

  • Day 2: Declutter DVD’s

  • Day 3: Declutter books

  • Day 4: Declutter kitchen appliances


2. Live by the mantra: a place for everything and everything in its place. For the next 100 days follow these four rules to keep your house in order:



  • If you take it out, put it back.

  • If you open it, close it.

  • If you throw it down, pick it up.

  • If you take it off, hang it up.


3. Walk around your home and identify 100 things you’ve been tolerating; fix one each day. Here are some examples:



  • A burnt light bulb that needs to be changed.

  • A button that’s missing on your favorite shirt.

  • The fact that every time you open your top kitchen cabinet all of the plastic food containers fall out.


Happiness


4.  Follow the advice proffered by positive psychologists and write down 5 to 10 things that you’re grateful for, every day.


5. Make a list of 20 small things that you enjoy doing, and make sure that you do at least one of these things every day for the next 100 days. Your list can include things such as the following:



  • Eating your lunch outside.

  • Calling your best friend to chat.

  • Taking the time to sit down and read a novel by your favorite author for a few minutes.


6. Keep a log of your mental chatter, both positive and negative, for ten days. Be as specific as possible:



  • How many times do you beat yourself up during the day?

  • Do you have feelings of inadequacy?

  • Are you constantly thinking critical thoughts of others?

  • How many positive thoughts do you have during the day?


Also, make a note of the emotions that accompany these thoughts. Then, for the next 90 days, begin changing your emotions for the better by modifying your mental chatter.


7. For the next 100 days, have a good laugh at least once a day: get one of those calendars that has a different joke for every day of the year, or stop by a web site that features your favorite cartoons.


Learning/Personal Development


8. Choose a book that requires effort and concentration and read a little of it every day, so that you read it from cover to cover in 100 days.


9. Make it a point to learn at least one new thing each day: the name of a flower that grows in your garden, the capital of a far-off country, or the name of a piece of classical music you hear playing in your favorite clothing boutique as you shop. If it’s time for bed and you can’t identify anything you’ve learned that day, take out your dictionary and learn a new word.


10. Stop complaining for the next 100 days. A couple of years back, Will Bowen gave a purple rubber bracelet to each person in his congregation to remind them to stop complaining. “Negative talk produces negative thoughts; negative thoughts produce negative results”, says Bowen. For the next 100 days, whenever you catch yourself complaining about anything, stop yourself.


11. Set your alarm a minute earlier every day for the next 100 days. Then make sure that you get out of bed as soon as your alarm rings, open the windows to let in some sunlight, and do some light stretching. In 100 days you’ll be waking up an hour and forty minutes earlier than you’re waking up now.


12. For the next 100 days, keep Morning Pages, which is a tool suggested by Julia Cameron. Morning Pages are simply three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning.


13. For the next 100 days make it a point to feed your mind with the thoughts, words, and images that are most consistent with who you want to be, what you want to have, and what you want to achieve.


Finances


14. Create a spending plan (also known as a budget). Track every cent that you spend for the next 100 days to make sure that you’re sticking to your spending plan.


15. Scour the internet for frugality tips, choose ten of the tips that you find, and apply them for the next 100 days.  Here are some possibilities:



  • Go to the grocery store with cash and a calculator instead of using your debit card.

  • Take inventory before going to the grocery store to avoid buying repeat items.

  • Scale back the cable.

  • Ask yourself if you really need a landline telephone.

  • Consolidate errands into one trip to save on gas.


Keep track of how much money you save over the next 100 days by applying these tips.


16. For the next 100 days, pay for everything with paper money and keep any change that you receive. Then, put all of your change in a jar and see how much money you can accumulate in 100 days.


17. Don’t buy anything that you don’t absolutely need for 100 days. Use any money you save by doing this to do one of the following:



  • Pay down your debt, if you have any.

  • Put it toward your six month emergency fund.

  • Start setting aside money to invest.


18. Set an hour aside every day for the next 100 days to devote to creating one source of passive income.


Time Management


19. For the next 100 days, take a notebook with you everywhere in order to keep your mind decluttered. Record everything, so that it’s safely stored in one place—out of your head—where you can decide what to do with it later. Include things such as the following:



  • Ideas for writing assignments.

  • Appointment dates.

  • To Do list items


20. Track how you spend your time for 5 days. Use the information that you gather in order to create a time budget: the percentage of your time that you want to devote to each activity that you engage in on a regular basis. This can include things such as:



  • Transportation

  • Housework

  • Leisure

  • Income-Generating Activities


Make sure that you stick to your time budget for the remaining 95 days.


21. Identify one low-priority activity which you can stop doing for the next 100 days, and devote that time to a high priority task instead.


22. Identify five ways in which you regularly waste time, and limit the time that you’re going to spend on these activities each day, for the next 100 days. Here are three examples:



  • Watch no more than half-an-hour of television a day.

  • Spend no more than half-an-hour each day on social media sites, such as Facebook, Twitter, and Stumbleupon.

  • Spend no more than twenty minutes a day playing video games.


23. For the next 100 days, stop multi-tasking; do one thing at a time without distractions.


24. For the next 100 days, plan your day the night before.


25. For the next 100 days, do the most important thing on your To-Do list first, before you do anything else.


26. For the next 14 weeks, conduct a review of each week. During your weekly review, answer the following:



  • What did you accomplish?

  • What went wrong?

  • What went right?


27. For the next 100 days, spend a few minutes at the end of each day organizing your desk, filing papers, and making sure that your work area is clean and orderly, so that you can walk in to a neat desk the next day.


28. Make a list of all of the commitments and social obligations that you have in the next 100 days. Then, take out a red pen and cross out anything that does not truly bring you joy or help move you along the path to achieving your main life goals.


29. For the next 100 days, every time that you switch to a new activity throughout the day stop and ask yourself, “Is this the best use of my time at this moment?”


Health


30. Losing a pound of fat requires burning 3500 calories.  If you reduce your caloric intake by 175 calories a day for the next 100 days, you’ll have lost 5 pounds in the next 100 days.


31. For the next 100 days, eat five servings of vegetables every day.


32.  For the next 100 days, eat three servings of fruit of every day.


33. Choose one food that constantly sabotages your efforts to eat healthier—whether it’s the decadent cheesecake from the bakery around the corner, deep-dish pizza, or your favorite potato chips—and go cold turkey for the next 100 days.


34.  For the next 100 days, eat from a smaller plate to help control portion size.


35. For the next 100 days, buy 100% natural juices instead of the kind with added sugar and preservatives.


36. For the next 100 days, instead of carbonated drinks, drink water.


37. Create a list of 10 healthy, easy to fix breakfast meals.


38. Create a list of 20 healthy, easy to fix meals which can be eaten for lunch or dinner.


39. Create a list of 10 healthy, easy to fix snacks.


40. Use your lists of healthy breakfast meals, lunches, dinners, and snacks in order to plan out your meals for the week ahead of time. Do this for the next 14 weeks.


41. For the next 100 days, keep a food log. This will help you to identify where you’re deviating from your planned menu, and where you’re consuming extra calories.


42. For the next 100 days, get at least twenty minutes of daily exercise.


43. Wear a pedometer and walk 10,000 steps, every day, for the next 100 days. Every step you take during the day counts toward the 10,000 steps:



  • When you walk to your car.

  • When you walk from your desk to the bathroom.

  • When you walk over to talk to a co-worker, and so on.


44. Set up a weight chart and post it up in your bathroom. Every week for the next 14 weeks, keep track of the following:



  • Your weight.

  • Your percentage of body fat.

  • Your waist circumference.


45. For the next 100 days, set your watch to beep once an hour, or set up a computer reminder, to make sure that you drink water on a regular basis throughout the day.


46. For the next 100 days, make it a daily ritual to mediate, breath, or visualize every day in order to calm your mind.


Your Relationship


47.   For the next 100 days, actively look for something positive in your partner every day, and write it down.


48. Create a scrapbook of all the things you and your partner do together during the next 100 days. At the end of the 100 days, give your partner the list you created of positive things you observed about them each day, as well as the scrapbook you created.


49. Identify 3 actions that you’re going to take each day, for the next 100 days, in order to strengthen your relationship. These can include the following:



  • Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” to your significant other every morning.

  • Hug your significant other as soon as you see each other after work.

  • Go for a twenty minute walk together every day after dinner; hold hands.


Social


50. Connect with someone new every day for the next 100 days, whether it’s by greeting a neighbor you’ve never spoken to before, following someone new on Twitter, leaving a comment on a blog you’ve never commented on before, and so on.


51. For the next 100 days, make it a point to associate with people you admire, respect and want to be like.


52. For the next 100 days, when someone does or says something that upsets you, take a minute to think over your response instead of answering right away.


53. For the next 100 days, don’t even think of passing judgment until you’ve heard both sides of the story.


54. For the next 100 days do one kind deed for someone every day, however small, even if it’s just sending a silent blessing their way.


55. For the next 100 days, make it a point to give praise and approval to those who deserve it.


56. For the next 100 days, practice active listening. When someone is talking to you, remain focused on what they’re saying, instead of rehearsing in your head what you’re going to say next. Paraphrase what you think you heard them say to make sure that you haven’t misinterpreted them, and encourage them to elaborate on any points you’re still not clear about.


57. Practice empathy for the next 100 days. If you disagree with someone, try to see the world from their perspective; put yourself in their shoes. Be curious about the other person, about their beliefs and their life experience, and about the thinking process that they followed to reach their conclusions.


58. For the next 100 days, stay in your own life and don’t compare yourself to anyone else.


59. For the next 100 days, place the best possible interpretation on the actions of others.


60. For the next 100 days, keep reminding yourself that everyone is doing the best that they can.


(Sunday Morning Still Life is courtesy of Pen Waggener).



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